So far on this blog, I have never sat down to write a post for you. One without pictures, planning, or prep. I thought I would tackle my first one on a very touchy subject for me: making friends.
I have been educated at 2 different elementary schools, 2 middle schools, and 1 high school ( so far ). I have lived in 2 countries, and 4 states within the U.S. As you can tell, my life has consisted of many, many moves. With these transfers arises the reality of having to make new friends, join new programs, and start a new life. Over the years, one might think I have developed a strong personality that isn't afraid of new people. That is false. I am honestly a very shy person. It averagely takes me 6 months to a year in order to make new friends. I wanted to share with you today some tips and tricks for meeting new people. Even if you aren't brand new somewhere, you can use this info to meet someone who you've never had the courage to walk up to; or say 'hey' to someone who always seemed nice, but you never got to know.
First things first: be confident. No matter if you are immensely shy or not, your confidence should radiate towards your greeter, giving them the courage to converse back. This step is sincerely the hardest for me, because self-deprecation takes over. Don't let the scenarios in your head stop you. The person you are about to meet is most likely nicer than you picture them.
Secondly, don't be too clingy. When first making friends, don't just find one person and follow them everywhere. Make sure you meet multiple people in different social groups in order to find the people that fit you most. Often times, I have just stuck side-by-side with my buddy, and after a few weeks I realized her and her friends had nothing in common with me, leaving me again, at the start.
And lastly, be yourself. The most important thing is to be yourself when meeting someone new. If it was meant to be, you will connect before you even know each others name. It is hard on yourself and others if you act as a different person. Being true to who you are makes you happier as a person. You don't have to be super-cool, or a sports player, or an academic. You just have to be yourself.
I truly hope you enjoyed this (more wordy) post. If this helped you, please, please, please let me know in the comments so I can focus more of my blog time on posts like these. Let me know if you relate to my situation, maybe we can become friends ! ( You can also let me know even if you don't relate, I love you all. ) Life has been very busy the first week of school, so I think I will be lessening my posts to 1-2 times a week. I hope this is okay for all of you!
Question of the Day:
Shy or outgoing?
A sixteen-year-old fashion obsessed girl, who stands just under 5 feet tall.